Whose version of reality are you living? Yours? Mine? Theirs?

I believe one of the most important things for human beings to realize is that nothing real exists. Reality is but a set of choices by which we experience life. Simply speaking, if my belief system differs from yours then what you consider reality/truth is different from mine. This means there are no absolutes when it comes to experience. It means we are always choosing what is real for us through a series of decisions. What is right for you may not be right for me. What is true for me, may not be true for you. Our perceptions lead to our beliefs, and our beliefs create our reality. When we see life this way, we realize we always have the power to change our reality by transforming our beliefs.

We live in a Universe of unconditional support. It is constantly drawing experiences to us that mirror our beliefs. The Universe is a magnet that attracts like-beliefs to like-experiences. Therefore, in order for us to change our experiences, we must start by changing our beliefs. To do that, we must examine both our inner worlds and our outer worlds. Our inner world holds our beliefs about ourselves, while our outer world is made of the beliefs of society, our parents, our significant others and all other individuals.

Inner world

What kinds of words do we say to ourselves? Do we say kind and loving things to ourselves or do we beat ourselves up over our actions, second guess our talents, and wonder if we are worthy? Do we believe we are in control of our experience or do we give away our power to others?

As human beings we tend to grow up believing that things are out of our control. Since we were little, we learned to look around when we felt bad to see where we can point a finger of blame. Was it my brother’s fault that I got hurt? Was it the chair’s fault that I got bruised? Was it my father’s fault that I was upset? Was it my sister’s fault that I didn’t get noticed? It was always someone or something’s fault that we didn’t feel good or couldn’t get what we wanted. Blaming others and ourselves is one way humans give away control over their world and their feelings. When we blame another person for our feelings, we tell ourselves we cannot change how we feel unless that person changes what they do. When we blame ourselves for being inadequate, we excuse ourselves from having power over how we feel in life. But none of this is true. All power lies with us and all change starts the moment we decide.

Outer world

The constructs of reality in which we live aren’t always ours alone. In order to change our lives and experiences for the better, we must also take inventory of our outer world. Have you asked yourself whose version of reality you are living right now? Yours? Your parents’? Your spouse’s? Your teacher’s? Whenever we interact with or listen to another human being, that person projects his or her version of reality onto us – this includes their fears as well as their highest hopes and dreams.

As children, we took in our parents’ and other people’s beliefs and allowed certain circumstances to harm us or feed us with insecurities. But today we are adults. Adults own the power to their lives. We have the power to erase lackluster beliefs that we allowed and accepted as our truths. Adults can do things what they as children could not. We can determine what to believe about ourselves starting right now. As Louise Hay says, “When we know better, we do better.”

If our beliefs have the power to draw whatever experiences we desire, imagine the wonderful things we can draw to our lives. When we realize the power our beliefs have over our reality, we begin to fathom the magnitudes of which we are capable.  We can begin seeing ourselves as limitless beings, full of pure potential.

Where to begin?

The simplest way to begin changing our realities is by contributing positively to other people’s realities. We can start by being the positive in the world that we desire for ourselves. We can start by being the ones who project feelings of worth and limitless achievements onto others. By doing this, we begin contributing to the cycle of change. What goes around always comes back around because we are all connected. 

It’s really that simple. We have to begin to detach from our own beliefs of lack by shifting our realities to encompass beliefs of love, support, abundance, and self-worth. Nothing is set in stone. Reality is in constant flux. It is always being created by our belief system. So what’s stopping us from creating a positive reality?

Remember: Everything you choose to believe as real, you in turn experience. Change your belief and you change everything.

Putting it into Practice:

Whenever you feel yourself experiencing something less than lustrous, such as an undesirable job, an unsatisfying love life, or any obstacles, ask yourself:

1. What have I believed to be real that is drawing this experience to me right now? (A good place to start is a self-worth inventory)

2. What would I like to change my belief to in order to experience a more desirable outcome?

3. How can I begin sharing my new belief with the world?
Not only does what we send around come back around, but the more we act on our beliefs, the more they become a way of life. And also, why would we not want to help another human being feel good? It feels so much better than helping a human being feel bad. Try it. Be the change you seek and share it with others.

Let courage be your guide. Dream as big as you can dream for how good you want to feel. Put it on paper and start seeing yourself as a limitless being, full of potential and light. 

What does your outer world look like?

Take inventory of your outer world and see who in your life might be contributing to your negative or positive beliefs about yourself or your world.

1. Think about your surroundings. Do you have good role models who believe in themselves and are full of optimism? Or do you have poor role models who doubt themselves and spread fear and doubt? Do you read the good news or do you read the sad news?

2. List all the ways you can start building a more positive outer world. For example, are there groups to which you can belong? Are there seminars you can attend? What type of activities would be healthier for you? What type of people would be best for you to be around? What types of beautiful things can you say to others to help you both feel better?

Finding your support group:

There is no need to take this journey on alone. We are a unit. It is so important that we find our soul group, the group of like-minded people who want to create a more positive reality for themselves as well.

Begin creating a new paradigm together with like-minded people. Support your new group of friends and allow them to support you in return. A great way to meet like-minded individuals is through seminars around the topics you are interested in. Find your family of light, be with them, and embrace this new paradigm of happiness and abundance as your divine right. Learn to give and receive love, optimism, abundance, joy, and all the wonderful things we all deserve.

Last, but not least: Chin up, cheer up, and have fun!
Believe it or not, life is meant to be fun. Go out and do something wonderful for yourself and for another person without delay.